My blogging schedule is all off since I am neck deep in finishing the grade four revision, but we had a discussion on the yahoo group this morning and I thought it was worth posting my response here.
A mom mentioned how inadequate she can feel when she goes to Waldorf playgroups and all the moms are carrying on about what they know and how they live, etc. I so strongly believe that change has to come from deep within you – it can’t be a fad and frankly sometimes Waldorf looks like a fad. So here is my response
Not laughing at your hurt, but laughing at what I see when these events take place. It is no different than boys in the bathroom with a ruler!
When you go to Waldorf playgroups or functions, I have a DARE for you all. BE YOURSELF!!! If you generally eat hummus and crackers, take them, if not, TAKE WHAT YOU EAT! Wear what you would normally wear. Be yourself. Shake it up. Be the weird one to bring cupcakes. We do so much to ourselves and to each other when we hold ourselves up to a standard that isn’t realistic for us.
I love the mamas that I know who are homesteading, running a family farm and being a CSA for their area… that is their path. I also love the moms that are living in suburbia in a well manicured home with furniture that matches. I love the moms that live in a hole in the wall in the middle of the city. I love them all. We are ALL faces of motherhood, we are ALL faces of Waldorf. Black, white, brown and all the shades in between. Republican, democrat and anarchist…. TRUST ME!!! What I see on my end is ALL OF IT. I work with the pretty blog moms, I work with the homesteaders and the city dwellers, and I work with all the political parties, the ethnically diverse… there is no perfect Waldorf mold. Thank goodness. There is however a ton of Waldorf guilt.
Ladies. SAVE. GUILT. FOR. SIN. Be present. Eat what you normally eat. If you want to make changes allow them to come from within your own yearnings rather than those of someone else.
I love you all.